A California Girl in Kansas - Latest Comments in Honesty.

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Mandy — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 16:29:53 -0000

"Believe it or not I'm walking on air, I never thought I could feel so free -ee -eeeee..." Looking forward to Wednesday my friend!

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Erin — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:44:29 -0000

ROFL "Let me know if I can do something to help, even if it's just staying away from you."

That's amazing.

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Erin — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:42:56 -0000

I cannot wait to hear the awkward fallout of this post & I hope it happens on twitter. ROFL/love ya

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Karen in Delano — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 11:15:16 -0000

I think when a ton of people meet who have nothing universally in common except "we live in Wichita and use Twitter," some of those people are going to have nothing *else* in common. In, probably, more cases than not. I don't think you should let that worry you. View the big Tweetup events as a mixer, not as a commitment. Granted, my introversion biases me, but I can't see how the recent density of large events is sustainable for *anyone*.

And I definitely don't think you should change your behavior based on your expectations of others' expectations. That's also not sustainable - it's counter-productive with friends, and ultimately pointless with acquaintances.

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Missy — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 09:58:16 -0000

Shea you seem to be a good, genuine person with a wicked sense of humor. Everyone on Twitter etc are adults and we all know not everyone is, can be, or will be, our best friend. Some people click and some do not. Please be yourself, and to the people you don't connect with, still be yourself, just maybe a polite, more distant self? I personally have not met any Tweeps yet in person - not because I don't like them and not because there is no one I would like to know better - just the opposite really. I just have a really busy full life and don't want to let people down beacuse I can't be heavily involved in stuff. Please don't feel bad if you need to step back, take a deep breath and figure out where to go with it all. Just be true to yourself and not feel responsibe for everyones happiness, just your own. Good luck.

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Nathaniel James — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:46:19 -0000

Someday we'll figure it out. Maybe. Perhaps.

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Cindy Kelly — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:36:59 -0000

Interesting. I got a vibe from you Thanksgiving that you seemed kinda sad, and then you tweeted about missing your family in CA. I'm glad you chose to be open about your feelings. Let me know if I can do something to help, even if it's just staying away from you.

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Shea — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:24:07 -0000

Thanks, Nate. Technology has made the possibility of new friendships and relationships almost limitless and yet there is such a difference between the friends who you've been through hell and back with and the people who you've known for a short time but who you get to know in hyperspeed thanks to a mixture of real life and online life.

I totally agree about the fine line. I don't know if anyone has perfected it yet. :)

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Nathaniel James — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 00:14:32 -0000

I feel you on this. I tend to write about everything, and where it usually gets me in trouble is with women. I don't like the idea of filtering myself, but I try to keep private things private--it's a fine-line I'm still learning to traverse.

It's a wholly different situation than yours, but it came to mind.

I guess I just relate to the idea of not being able to write everything you'd like. It's a toughie.